Communication Tips for Successful Co-Parenting

Life after a divorce may not seem “normal” for your children for years. They’ll have to adjust to living in two different houses, rarely seeing their parents together, and spending school vacations and holidays with one parent or the other. It isn’t possible to return to life as it once was, but collaborative, civil co-parenting can work wonders for a child’s mental and behavioral health. Talk to your family law attorney about arranging the child custody agreement and parenting plan in ways that will facilitate successful co-parenting.

Establish workable communication methods.

The more specific and comprehensive a parenting plan is, the less likely co-parents are to have frequent disputes. In terms of communication, the document should specify how and when the parents must communicate. The plan might look something like this:

  • Parents will share information about the child’s education, healthcare, behavioral issues, extracurricular activities, and special events.
  • Parents will use email as a primary communication method, and will send emails once weekly or on an as-needed basis.
  • Parents will communicate via phone if emergencies or last-minute scheduling changes arise.
  • Parents will share changes in contact information within three days.
  • Parents will not discuss the child in the child’s presence.

Don’t hesitate to let your attorney know if you need to add any provisions to the standard text.

Embrace proactive communication.

A firm commitment to keeping each other in the loop can prevent many co-parenting problems. Use neutral language to share information, such as, “I’m concerned about Jay’s slipping grades. Do you have any suggestions?” or “Muriel’s school pictures are available for order soon. Here’s the information, if you’d like to submit your own order.”

Explore technological solutions.

These days, there’s an app for pretty much everything, including co-parenting. If it’s difficult for you and the other parent to keep the communication cordial, consider looking for an app that will put more psychological “distance” between you and your ex. There are also co-parenting websites available, which allow parents to enter information like schedules and upcoming activities without having to talk to each other.

The seasoned child custody lawyers at Singer & Associates will protect your parental rights and establish the legal structures necessary to support your children’s well-being. Call our family law firm in Sacramento, CA at (916) 922-5985. We’ll work closely with you to strive for the best possible outcome for your case.

The information presented in this article should not be construed to be formal legal advice by Singer & Associate Law Office, or the formation of a lawyer/client relationship. Because of the changing nature of this area of the law and the importance of individual facts, readers are encouraged to seek independent counsel for advice regarding their individual legal issues.

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