Coming to Terms with Supervised Visitation

A family court judge can order supervised visitation if there is sufficient evidence to believe that the child’s welfare could be at risk without it. If the other parent has requested supervised visitation, and you don’t yet have a lawyer, now is the time to get one. Your child custody lawyer can improve your chances of securing the best possible outcome for your case.

Managing Your Emotions

The idea that someone will be supervising your time with your child can be emotionally devastating. Many parents feel insulted, singled out, or manipulated. You may feel as though supervised visitation is just something the other parent requested in order to make you miserable. These are all valid emotional responses, but they aren’t helpful for you or your child. Know that supervised visitation isn’t always a permanent arrangement. The most effective way to regain greater parental rights is to focus on what you should be doing regardless: Building a stronger, closer relationship with your child and following the court’s orders. So do your best to rein in your emotions, at least when it’s time to see your child.

Showing Your Child You Care

Children can interpret the actions and words of their parents very differently than the parents do. You can show your child that he or she is the most important person in the world to you simply by showing up for all scheduled visitations a little early. Your child may be distressed if you’re late, even if it’s because of traffic. And do prioritize your visits above all other commitments—only cancel or reschedule if you have no other choice.

Knowing What to Do

Check with the supervisor about items you can bring with you as each supervisor may have different requirements. These rules should be understood prior to hiring the supervisor. Usually, you’ll be able to bring toys, games, puzzles, books, and coloring books. Turn off your cellphone and give your child your complete attention. You might arrive with some idea of what you’d like to do with your child, but stay flexible—let your child take the lead when choosing an activity.

Knowing What to Say

If supervised visitation feels unnatural to you, just imagine how your daughter or son is reacting to the situation. You can help your child feel at ease by keeping the conversation and your tone of voice positive. Avoid discussing the court case, and never ask your child to report on what the other parent has been doing. If your child mentions the other parent, keep your remarks neutral or positive and transition the conversation back to things your child enjoys.

Singer & Associates has built a reputation as the go-to law firm for fathers in California who want to remain active in their children’s lives. One of our fathers’ rights attorneys can sit down with you to discuss your situation and explain your options. Call our office in Sacramento at (916) 922-5985.

The information presented in this article should not be construed to be formal legal advice by Singer & Associate Law Office, or the formation of a lawyer/client relationship. Because of the changing nature of this area of the law and the importance of individual facts, readers are encouraged to seek independent counsel for advice regarding their individual legal issues.

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